Marry Him

I am currently reading this book called Marry Him-The Case for settling for Mr. Good Enough :

I am not at all ashamed to say that I am reading this.  A girlfriend of mine let me borrow it and let me tell you....it is GENIUS!  Everyone, man OR woman should read this.  I could think of a handful of guys from church who NEED this book.  Perhaps I should anonymously send it to them?  I have come to realize that I have issues.  But I am not alone in this.  Everyone has issues!  One thing this book has taught me is NO ONE is perfect.  This is a concept I was already aware of, but sometimes when it comes to picking a husband/wife we expect perfection even when we ourselves are not perfect.  Well hate to break it you all of you, but that perfect person does not exist.  I think that there are people that are perfect FOR us, but they in no way are perfect.  Make sense?  I was crushed by this reality, but it is true.  I have this crazy list of qualities I would like in a future spouse but I'm coming to see that I will not get the whole package.  This book discusses deal breakers.  What are deal breakers?  Well I know of a few and I've come across them in guys...hence why I am still single.  But I can look back and see that maybe I could have given a chance to more guys...end of that story.  I need to give guys a chance and only stop dating them when a serious deal breaker arises.  I do have a Mister right now and let me tell you, he is a sweetheart.  Seen any deal breakers?  Not yet.  So I will continue to date. :)

P.S. In case you haven't noticed, I am very analytical so bear with me :)

Now the question is...how do you know when it's right?  I have this picture in my head of my future husband.  I always compare guys against that.  No one seems to measure up.  Am I being too picky?  YES.  But at the same time I feel like the things I'm looking for in a guy are reasonable expectations!  I know what I want and when I see it, I go after it.  However I'm starting to notice that I keep going after the same type of guy and keep getting rejected.  Maybe I should change my type?  Then I have the guys who come after me, but I feel like they are not the type I'm looking for, but maybe they are right for me?  Who's to say?  Gosh this is so darn confusing.  

Sometimes I wish that guys would give ME a chance just as much as I give THEM a chance.  (Note-Thanks to all the guys who have given me a chance...much love).  So that is why I say READ THIS BOOK.  And I think I might just have to send this book out to a few guys at church.  Hopefully they won't be offended :).  

Mr. Good Enough is out there.  I know he is.  Maybe I've already met him, maybe I haven't.  Only time will tell.  But I will continue to have faith and to keep living my life!

Much Love

Ashley